Hi everyone, this is the first time I've ever posted anything but I need help. I've been married to my soul mate for 10 years now and we have two beautiful kids. My issue is my wife has confessed that she doesn't know if she can stay with me having a colostomy. I had surgery on October 29, 2018, and it hasn't been easy. My bowels blocked on three separate occasions causing me to spend more time in the hospital. And my bag has exploded during the night 4 or 5 times with my wife waking me up with me sitting in a pool of feces. Because of this, she is now terrified to wake up covered in it or having it leak or explode while we're being intimate. We had the hardest discussion I've ever had when she admitted that there is a possibility that she can't stay with me. Granted, I have been very introverted due to some other personal issues then with the diagnosis of cancer and the subsequent surgery. Please help, I just can't lose her. I knew she was my soul mate from our first date when she sat in my car.
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