Relationships and Intimacy discussions

Hi,
First post on here so, please be gentle. I was wondering, has anyone found a way of keeping that darn bag out of the way when they are having one of their most intimate moments? I've used techniques such as holding it under a t-shirt, etc... What do you do? It just plain can get in the way sometimes...
Thanks in advance.

Hi. Just wanted to ask people, is it really possible to date when you have a bag? From things I have read on this
site, the answer is no. People say it's either too hard to tell people about the bag or they run for the hills once they find out. Don't get the wrong idea. I myself cannot think of dating again. I am having a hard time dealing with my own bag. But I wonder what other people think.

I would like to share tips, secrets, anything that helps intimacy be more alluring to others. Don't be shy, I need answers.

I am a 37-year-old, single mom of 3 and I am a colorectal cancer survivor going on 3 years now. I am dating and find it very difficult and stressful to try to tell someone I want to be intimate with that I have an ostomy. How do you tell someone? I would also like to know how can I hide or keep my bag from getting in the way during intimacy. I am so worried that I will never find someone who w ...

I've already come to the conclusion that the only possibility of becoming intimate with a lady is to make sure she has some sort of an ostomy herself. That's fine and understandable, though I wish the door wasn't halfway closed, knowing I will never be accepted by someone without one.
Yeah, I know, there are a lot of wonderful, sweet women out there who will understand. If you believe that, yo ...

I have had several people ask if my ostomy affects my sex life? What they are really asking is does wearing a sh!t bag turn your husband off? I guess it's normal curiosity. But I feel like telling them it's none of their business. Of course the answer is no.

Hi,
I have had my ileostomy now for 7 years, and it's doing great, and so am I now after almost dying a couple of times before it. However, I have tried the dating sites and tried to meet people. I have tried not telling them right away and waiting until they get to know me a bit, and I have tried telling them right away. Every time, once they look it up, they run, and I never hear from them a ...

I had my permanent colostomy surgery in August 2021. I have become comfortable with my pouching situation. But I really am nervous about having sex (I haven't had sex since before my surgery because of problems); I really want to have sex again but I am concerned about the pouch being in the way or a turn off to someone.
Looking for some helpful suggestions :-)

OK,
So I know I'm different, but now I'm really different after I woke up with an ileostomy. I find I'm even more of a subunit as the others on this site. Are there any other gay men on here who would like to talk? I have so many questions and just don't know how to progress.

Just wondering what people's thoughts are with stripping off in front of others with their stoma. Do you hide it away or wear it with pride, and has it stopped anyone from doing anything for the fear of others seeing it?
Although I'm very aware of mine, I have never thought twice about getting changed or being naked in front of someone else because it's something I cannot hide and has helped m ...

So, I had my first date since my split/divorce with my ex-husband.
I wear bag covers over my ostomy bag and my date saw it and asked me what it was. I explained to him about my health and that I have a permanent ostomy. I could tell right away after that by the look on his face it was over before the date even started.
My question is: when do you tell someone about your ostomy, and how do you ...

After six weeks of satisfying him orally, I decided that I would attempt a different way of getting intimate. I taped up my bag and got naked. Well, this ended badly. I am still not attracted to my body, and not sure what the hell I was thinking. It was very depressing. He's a boob guy and I have a feeling that me not having what I used to turned him off. He won't admit that because he knows h ...

I know this topic has been posted many times...but does anybody have any terrible dating stories about trying to date with an ostomy? I have read about the ones where people don't mind, etc., but I feel like those are few and far between. I just wanna know that I am not alone in feeling like I will never meet anyone. I had numerous hospitalizations over the years and have not dated due to my i ...

I can't focus on sex because I'm focused on my ostomy. My husband says my ostomy is number one in my life. I don't know how to not focus on my ostomy so much. It's like a big baby that needs TLC all the time. Grr.

I am 28 and gay with an ostomy bag. I feel like the only one, even though I know there must be others, I don't know any. I am concerned that I won't be able to find anyone who will date me because I have a bag. The possibility of ending up alone scares and depresses me. I truly want a partner and family one day and I just feel that people may discount what I have to offer simply because of my ...