When you're dating someone new and have an ostomy, deciding when to share this part of your life can be a bit tricky. Here's some advice and insights from others who have been in similar situations:

- There isn't a perfect moment to share; it really depends on:
- Your own comfort level and personality.
- How well you know your partner and his personality.
- How your ostomy affects your daily life and any potential relationship.

- Being honest early on can save time. Some people choose to tell their partners on the first or second date.
- If the person isn't accepting, it's better to know early rather than investing in a relationship that might not work out.

- Others prefer to wait until the relationship becomes more intimate. Many have experienced positive acceptance when they shared this information just before or during their first intimate encounter.
- Confidence and how you present the information can be more important than the timing.

- Prepare yourself by being ready to explain what living with an ostomy means, including any lifestyle limitations, and be open to questions.

- Build emotional closeness gradually:
- Start with activities that make you comfortable, like cuddling, and have general conversations about important life topics before introducing your health situation.

- Your confidence can affect how your partner perceives the situation. Work on accepting your own body to help ease any anxiety.

- Here are some practical tips for early dating and intimacy:
- Wear high-waist spandex underwear to help secure and conceal the pouch.
- Eat smaller meals when spending extended time together to reduce the need for bathroom trips.
- Use oral deodorants to help with odor control.
- For bloating or gas, some people find products like Nexus and Gas-X helpful.

- Remember, everyone has their own "baggage." A partner who truly cares about you will focus on who you are as a person, not on your ostomy.