This topic is about the journey of adjusting to life after ostomy surgery, focusing on self-image and confidence. It shares personal experiences and offers advice to help others navigate similar challenges.

- The journey begins with a sudden ileostomy surgery, which initially felt like a low point. The change was difficult to accept, especially with concerns about physical appearance and dating.

- Over time, health improvements and a shift in perspective helped. The realization that everyone faces challenges, the ostomy doesn't define you, and self-acceptance is possible, brought a sense of liberation.

- Online dating during COVID has delayed some real-world experiences, but there's a newfound confidence that some people will accept the ostomy, and it's not a big deal.

- A key milestone was switching from a transparent pouch to a flesh-colored opaque one. This change reduced anxiety and made the pouch feel more like a regular accessory, rather than something demanding constant attention.

- Self-acceptance and perspective are crucial. Initial devastation is normal but temporary. With time, you realize you're "fixed, not broken," and the ostomy is just another health issue. Recognizing blessings and practicing gratitude can lead to a healthier life post-surgery.

- When it comes to dating and disclosure, being yourself is important. Openness and confidence are more attractive than hiding the bag. It's suggested to disclose by the second or third date. If someone isn't curious or supportive, they might not be the right partner. By the time intimacy arrives, an invested partner will have accepted the ostomy.

- During COVID, practical meeting ideas include outdoor walks, sitting by water, and long-table distancing to keep social interaction while minimizing risk.

- Socially, passing gas or other noises may require explanation, but treating it matter-of-factly helps. Most people have their own problems, and the ostomy usually matters less to others than we fear.

- In terms of activity and lifestyle, many continue sports and hobbies like golf and softball without major limitations. It's about adapting rather than quitting.

- The choice of pouch can make a big difference. Moving from transparent to opaque pouches was a major psychological boost for many, reducing constant monitoring and worry.