This topic is about navigating intimacy and dating when living with an ileostomy. It can be a sensitive subject, and many people find that available information often skirts around it. Here are some personal experiences and practical tips shared by individuals who have been through it:

1. Self-confidence is key. Feeling attractive and accepting your body and its new functions is an important first step before engaging with a partner.

2. Gauge your partner’s reaction early on.
- Some people choose to tell a potential partner after a few dates. Observing their body language and facial expressions can quickly reveal whether they are accepting or uncomfortable.
- If a partner reacts negatively, they might not be the right fit. Those who ask questions and show genuine interest are usually more supportive.

3. Consider using specialized or concealing products if that makes you more comfortable.
- Mini pouches are available that can be less intrusive during intimate moments.
- High-waisted or larger underwear, including options from retailers like Matalan, can cover the appliance. Crotchless versions offer access while still concealing the pouch.
- Wearing a T-shirt can be a simple way to feel more at ease, especially for men.

4. Learn from practical dating experiences.
- One person shared that they waited until the third date to disclose their ileostomy and received a positive response, which boosted their confidence.
- Another had a negative first experience with someone who was "repulsed," but later found a partner who was accepting and even curious about life with an ileostomy.

5. Build emotional resilience.
- Be prepared for the possibility that some people might "run away" due to their lack of understanding. Remember, this reaction reflects their lack of education, not your value.
- Focusing on self-love and ensuring you feel ready before returning to dating can make the process of disclosure and intimacy smoother.