Managing a new ostomy bag can be a bit challenging, especially when you have young children and want to enjoy activities like swimming or going to the beach. It can also be tough to get a good night's sleep when you're worried about leaks. Here are some helpful tips and advice from others who have been in your shoes:

1. For swimming and beach outings:
- Consider switching to a two-piece system with a smaller, closed-end pouch for water activities.
- Bring spare pouches with you so you can change them if needed.
- Wear dark-colored swimsuits and add a T-shirt or cover-up when you're out of the water to help conceal the pouch.
- A longer, looser men's swimsuit can naturally hide the appliance.

2. For better seal and skin protection:
- Use barrier strips, sometimes called "space stripes," around the stoma to reinforce the wafer and create a tighter seal with a two-piece setup.

3. Managing output and gas while out:
- In hot weather, output might decrease, but it's important to stay well hydrated.
- Avoid carbonated drinks in public to reduce gas. Products like Beano or Gas-X can help minimize noise if gas is an issue.

4. Tips for better sleep:
- Consider using a high-output or night-drain pouch to reduce worries about overnight filling and leaks.
- Some people have found that short-term prescription sleep aids, used temporarily, can help overcome anxiety and improve sleep.

5. General encouragement:
- It's normal to frequently check your pouch at first, but with time, your confidence will grow, and this habit will fade.
- With some planning and the right equipment, you can enjoy all sorts of activities, including beach trips with your kids.