This topic is about dealing with the emotional impact when a partner ends a relationship because one person has an ostomy bag. It explores the feelings of betrayal and offers advice on how to cope and move forward.

- If someone leaves you because of an ostomy, it reveals their true character. You are better off without them in your life.
- Focus on your own recovery, self-esteem, and happiness. Let karma or natural consequences take care of your ex-partner.
- Many partners do stay and support their loved ones. There are spouses who quickly learn ostomy care, attend support groups, and see the bag as just another part of their loved one.
- While having a supportive partner is wonderful, it’s not essential. Develop a thick skin, a sense of humor, and surround yourself with family, friends, and online communities that understand your situation.
- Rejection is painful, but it can save you from spending years with someone who is vain or ignorant. Use this time alone for personal growth and to pursue your interests freely.
- Don’t assume that future partners will react the same way as past ones. Give new relationships a chance, but never settle for anyone who makes you feel unworthy.
- If you are the partner without the bag, take the time to educate yourself. Learn the basics of ostomy care, attend meetings, or even try wearing a pouch temporarily to understand the experience better.
- Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Recognize that living with a bag often makes people more compassionate and appreciative of life.
- Remember the saying: “Those that matter don’t mind; those that mind don’t matter.”