This topic is about a young person who underwent life-saving ileostomy surgery due to ulcerative colitis. Initially, he was excited about the possibility of ending steroid use and returning to a normal life. However, he misunderstood what an ileostomy entailed, thinking it involved an internal "bag." It was only after watching a video online that he realized the bag was external, which left him feeling scared and worried about how his friends and future relationships would be affected.

His surgery, which was the first fully laparoscopic procedure of its kind in Ireland, lasted eight hours and was followed by severe pain and complications, extending his hospital stay to a month. Initially, he regretted the surgery, but within months, he felt healthier, was free from medication, and no longer felt like "the sick kid." Two years later, he considers the surgery the best decision he ever made. He wonders if others were also unaware of what a stoma bag was before their operations and offers encouragement to those facing the procedure, assuring them that the early physical pain and self-consciousness do improve with time.

Here are some insights and advice shared by others:

1. It's common to feel shocked initially. Many people only learn about ostomies after emergency surgery or cancer treatment and may feel depressed or horrified at first.

2. Perspectives change over time. Respondents now see their ostomies as life-saving and freedom-restoring. One person even describes ostomies as "beautiful" because they prevent death from conditions like ulcerative colitis or cancer.

3. Acceptance takes time. Most people initially dislike the bag, but eventually, they come to terms with it. Give yourself time, as the benefits soon outweigh any early regrets.

4. Sharing is personal. Share details about your ileostomy only with those you trust. True friends or partners won't be bothered by it. If someone rejects you because of the bag, they aren't worth your time.

5. Community and support are invaluable. Joining local ostomy support groups or online forums can provide practical help, shared experiences, and a sense of camaraderie.