This topic is about dealing with setbacks and emotions after having an ileostomy surgery. More than a year after the surgery, the person had just started getting back into martial arts when they needed another operation, which left them with a new scar. They are feeling angry, upset, and isolated. Even simple tasks like vacuuming have caused their stitches to reopen, forcing them to rest in bed again. They are tired of not feeling "normal" and find it hard to be completely honest with those around them, hoping for better days ahead.

Here are some pieces of advice and insights that might help:

1. This forum is a safe space to express negative emotions. People here truly understand the challenges related to having a stoma, which might not be the case with many friends or family members.

2. It's okay to feel sorry for yourself sometimes. Acknowledging your pain is healthier than pretending everything is fine. Remember, champions are those who keep getting back up after falling.

3. Bad days do come to an end. Each new day offers a fresh opportunity to reassess, gain perspective, and rise above the setbacks.

4. Practical coping tips:
- Allow yourself to vent. Writing it out, whether in rhyme, journaling, or blogging, can be very therapeutic.
- Find comfort in small things, like enjoying your favorite foods or recalling a personal "conquering moment" to help restart a positive mindset.

5. Share your frustrations with people who understand, such as online support groups, rather than those who might feel burdened. This way, you can release your feelings without passing on negativity.

6. Feeling sorry for yourself from time to time is normal, as long as it doesn't take over. Channeling these feelings into creative outlets can help transform them into something positive.