This topic is about adjusting to life after a planned stoma surgery, affectionately referred to as "Tommy." The surgery took place on April 1, 2016, in Newport Beach, California. While the procedure was anticipated and promised relief from chronic issues like leakage and odor, the emotional journey was more challenging than expected. A post-surgery photo captures the physical relief but also the emotional struggle of accepting this new reality. It took several days for acceptance to begin.

Here are some helpful insights and advice for anyone going through a similar experience:

1. Be prepared for an emotional adjustment period, even if the surgery is planned. It's normal to feel unprepared or have mixed emotions.

2. Healing, both physically and emotionally, often happens in stages. Give yourself the time you need to adjust.

3. Consider using concealing or comfort garments, like waistbands, to help you feel more confident when going out.

4. For stoma discomfort or noisy gas:
- A heating pad can provide soothing relief for the abdomen.
- Over-the-counter options like ibuprofen and anti-gas tablets can help with cramps and gas buildup.

5. Experiment with your diet to identify personal triggers, as they can vary from person to person.
- Some people need to avoid dairy unless they use Lactaid (lactase enzyme tablets).
- Others may react to foods like hamburgers, French fries, hash browns, or fried foods in general.

6. Maintaining a positive outlook, focusing on gratitude, and sharing your experiences with others in forums can greatly aid in emotional recovery.