This topic is about a person who has been living with an ostomy since 2017 and faced a difficult and abusive situation in a long-term relationship. After moving to a new apartment, she experienced bullying from a neighbor and suspected her husband of disclosing her condition or being involved with the neighbor. This led to a series of distressing events, including verbal abuse and eventual separation. She is now on a journey to rebuild her life independently, dealing with trauma and self-consciousness about her ostomy. Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared:

1. The issue is not the ostomy but the behavior of the abuser. Properly fitted appliances and products like Hollister M9 Odor Eliminator drops effectively prevent any odor.

2. Do not let the abuser have emotional power over you. Your worth and attractiveness remain unchanged.

3. Recognize the partner as unfaithful and emotionally abusive. Focus on leaving the past behind, rebuilding confidence, and enjoying life.

4. Counseling, therapy, support groups, or reading about narcissistic and emotional abuse can aid in healing. Talking about your feelings is important to avoid bottling them up.

5. Consider legal steps such as filing for divorce, seeking alimony if applicable, and ensuring personal safety by protecting your address and using domestic violence resources.

6. Remember that loving partners care for each other despite medical issues. A truly caring partner would not use your health condition against you.

7. Lean on the support network you have built. Time and distance from the abuser will help restore your self-esteem.

8. Express your emotions freely. Journaling, venting, and engaging in positive activities, like finding something to smile about every hour, can help counter PTSD symptoms.

9. Keep perspective: his cruelty reflects his own weaknesses. In time, karma and future challenges may reveal his mistake in losing a caring spouse.