Managing excess anal mucus after getting a stoma can be quite a challenge. Even when you've got the stool and odor under control, the mucus can still be a pesky problem. It tends to leak out due to gravity, making it hard to manage and clean up. Regular incontinence pads often don't do the trick because they can't absorb the thick mucus, leading to uncomfortable situations. Here are some suggestions that might help:

1. Menstrual pads might be a better option than standard incontinence pads. They are specifically designed to handle thicker fluids, which might make them more effective at absorbing mucus.

2. If tampons aren't working because they slide out, consider experimenting with different types of pads. You might find that layering two menstrual pads provides better coverage and absorption.

3. A current workaround involves folding toilet tissue and placing it between the legs to slow down the flow, allowing the pad to absorb the mucus. However, this might not be effective during times of heavy or rapid leakage.

4. If you're using your wife's menstrual pads and find them too small, you might want to try larger sizes or different brands to see if they offer better coverage and absorption.

These tips might help you find a more comfortable and effective way to manage the mucus leakage.