Managing more mucus mishaps

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Bill
Jan 21, 2025 8:49 am

MANAGING MORE MISHAP MUCUS.

When I first had my stoma, I
was never told the reason why
I would still be incontinent
and that could become dominant.

I’ve always managed my stoma 
with all it’s shit and aroma
without becoming too distressed,
anxiety-ridden, or depressed. 

But mucus from my arse is such
that I just think it is too much
and, there are times I cannot cope,
then I begin to lose all hope.

The problem with my bum is that
it should come with a caveat,
which warns us of how gravity
can draw stuff from this cavity.

It’s also inaccessible, 
which makes it seem inevitable
that, as it’s hard, the end result
means management is difficult.

Though I try hard, it is in vain
as mucus is hard to contain
so, when it comes out in excess
I end up in an awful mess.

Inco-pads do not work well
for, as far as I can tell,
they don’t absorb this slippery slime
so down my legs will slide the grime.

This mess is so disgusting, I
sometimes begin to wonder why
I have not found solutions to
this problem, like I often do. 

Although I’ve tried my very best,
mucus has put me to the test 
so, I’d appreciate you all
 to send suggestions, big or small.
                                                B. Withers 2024

SusanT
Jan 21, 2025 5:32 pm

Hi Bill,

I haven't had this problem (yet), possibly because I'm getting liquid drainage from my fistula. Incontinence pads work well for that but it gave me a thought. Incontinence pads are really designed for highly liquid output like urine. This sounds thicker and more gooey than urine. Perhaps try a menstrual pad? That is designed for thicker menstrual output. I've noticed differences in their performance so the menstrual pads may work better for this. 

It's just a random idea but might be worth a try. 

Posted by: Puppyluv56

Hi Deb,

As you can see, the outpouring of love and support from this website will help you to find the strength to lift yourself up and out of your current emotional situation. I am lucky to have my husband by my side through all of this, so I will not even pretend to know how you feel and what you're going through alone. I do know that I have great friends on this site and in my life that have been by my side, and hopefully you have many by your side as well. You do have a lot of new friends here. Please feel free to talk through anything that is on your mind. We all go through a confidence deficit when we go through an ostomy surgery. Our body has been marred and your mind feels that way sometimes too. It is tough to move on, but you will. You will be stronger once you realize that you are still the beautiful woman you were prior to your surgery. Hopefully, you can reach out to a local support group and find some additional friends in your same situation. It always helps to have a sounding board wherever you find it!

Puppyluv

Bill
Jan 21, 2025 6:51 pm

Hello SusanT.
Thank you so much for responding to this rhyme, with what seems like a reasonable suggestion . 
I have tried tampons but they did not work for me as the just slid straight out (that mucus is a slippery problem).
It did occur to me to try the pads that my wife uses, but they are a fraction of the size of the pads I currently use, (which also  double-up for urine incontinence, (Oh! the joys of getting old)!!

At present. I fold up a piece of toilet tissue and wedge it between my legs. This helps to slow the flow and give the inco-pad a chance.  However, none of it stands a chance when the flow is too much or too fast. 
However, I might try what you suggest but  put one pad over the other and see how that works.
Best wishes

Bill