Topic Explanation:
The discussion centers around a person who is struggling with their partner's negative reaction to their ostomy. After 15 years together, the partner expressed discomfort with the ostomy bag, which has led to feelings of insecurity and loneliness for the person with the ostomy. They are contemplating whether to stay in the relationship or leave due to the lack of support and intimacy.

Advice and Insights:

1. Many participants suggest that a partner of 15 years should be supportive and that love should be unconditional, especially when facing health challenges. If the partner cannot accept the ostomy, it may be a sign that they do not truly love or support the person.

2. Counseling is recommended by several participants as a way to address the partner's discomfort and to see if the relationship can be salvaged. It is suggested that both partners attend counseling to understand each other's perspectives better.

3. Some participants share personal experiences of having supportive partners who accepted their ostomies, emphasizing that a loving partner should prioritize the person's health and well-being over physical changes.

4. There is a consensus that if the partner remains unsupportive and unloving, it may be time to consider ending the relationship. Participants encourage focusing on self-care and finding someone who appreciates and supports them fully.

5. Financial readiness and legal advice are recommended for those considering leaving a relationship, to ensure a smooth transition.

6. Participants share that having an ostomy can be a test of a partner's true character, and those who cannot handle it may not be worth staying with.

7. Some suggest attending support groups or conferences, such as the UOAA conference, to connect with others who understand and can offer support.

8. Participants emphasize the importance of self-love and not settling for a partner who makes them feel insecure or unloved. They encourage finding happiness and fulfillment independently or with someone who truly values them.

9. A few participants mention practical solutions, such as using a Stealth Belt to hide the pouch, which might help with intimacy concerns.

10. Personal stories are shared about relationships that did not survive due to a partner's inability to accept an ostomy, highlighting the importance of finding a partner who is supportive and understanding.