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Oct 15, 2025

I'm Home from Surgery and Feeling Great, but My Mom's Reactions Are Tough

This topic is about a young woman who recently underwent surgery to manage her ulcerative colitis, resulting in an ileostomy. While she is feeling good physically and emotionally, she is facing challenges with her mother's negative reaction to her new situation. Here are some helpful insights and advice for navigating this:

1. Give her time: Parents often need time to adjust, especially when they see their child’s health improving and life returning to normal.

2. Educate her: Share accurate information and real-life stories about people with ostomies. This can help her understand that having an ostomy doesn’t prevent someone from swimming, traveling, getting pregnant, working, or enjoying intimacy.

3. Understand coping styles: Sometimes loved ones react negatively because they are processing their own fears. Patience can be key in these situations.

4. Set boundaries: If her comments become hurtful or controlling, it might be necessary to limit exposure, firmly ask her to stop, or seek family or individual counseling.

5. Surround yourself with support: Lean on friends, partners, and online communities that offer encouragement and understanding while your family adjusts.

6. Maintain a positive attitude: Focus on your recovery and take it one step at a time. Many people with ostomies go on to lead full, active lives.

7. Remember the benefits: The ileostomy provides health and freedom compared to life before surgery, and most people ultimately don’t mind that it’s there.
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