This topic is about the challenges and experiences of dating when you have both an ostomy pouch and genital herpes. It can feel overwhelming, but there are ways to keep things in perspective and find supportive partners. Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. After feeling discouraged, it's possible to find a kind and understanding partner. The originator shares that she is now dating a compassionate man who accepts her fully, despite not having an ostomy or herpes himself.

2. Working in environments that remind you of others' struggles, like an inner-city non-profit or knowing someone with a serious health condition, can help you appreciate your own situation.

3. Keep perspective by reminding yourself of the bigger picture. Some people think about those in war zones or dealing with severe illnesses to appreciate what they have.

4. A positive attitude is important. Life is about how you handle the challenges you're given.

5. Many people with significant health issues, such as permanent colostomies, ileostomies, or other medical conditions, have successfully dated, gotten engaged, or married. It is possible to find love and companionship.

6. Online dating can be effective. Consider mentioning "ostomy" and "herpes" in your profile so that anyone who contacts you is already aware and accepting, which can help avoid future rejection.

7. Remember that herpes is quite common, affecting about 1 in 6 adults in the U.S. and 1 in 5 women. There is no need to feel ashamed.

8. Practicing gratitude instead of self-pity can be a daily effort. Some days are easier than others, but it can help you move forward positively.