This topic is about dealing with a situation where a partner has asked for the ostomy bag to be covered during intimate moments. The person who shared this experience felt hurt by the request and sought advice on how to handle it. Here are some helpful insights and advice shared by others:

1. Communication & Perspective
- Have an open conversation with your partner to understand their concerns and explain why the ostomy is necessary. Often, more information can help ease discomfort.
- Set clear boundaries and expect respect. While it's important to address hurtful comments, consider the overall relationship before making any drastic decisions.
- Remember that even those with ostomies might feel uncomfortable looking at the pouch. Honest communication and emotional health are key to maintaining intimacy.

2. Confidence & Attitude
- Embrace imperfections and keep intimacy light-hearted. Use humor to defuse tension, such as playful retorts about the pouch.
- Focus on the fact that everyone has imperfections, and intimacy can be more enjoyable with a playful attitude.

3. Cover-Up Options and Specialty Wear
- Consider using silk pouch covers or customized designs to make the pouch less noticeable.
- Try products like Angel Pouch Covers or stoma caps with fun designs to hide the plastic.
- Use long silk scarves, strapless tube-tops, or specialized knickers with built-in pouch pockets for a more discreet look.
- Explore options like the Stealth Belt or BetweenYouandMe intimate wear for comfortable and stylish solutions.

4. Practical Tips
- Time your pouch emptying to minimize output and consider using a stoma cap if suitable.
- Keep the pouch low-profile by folding or tucking it under a wrap to reduce noise and movement.
- Use dim lighting or candlelight to shift focus away from the abdomen during intimate moments.

5. Emotional Support
- Many people find that loving partners adapt quickly, and some have found new relationships with partners who appreciate them as they are.
- Self-acceptance can play a big role in helping partners accept the ostomy as well.

6. Further Resources
- Look for resources like the UOAA conference hand-out or Phoenix Magazine for more information on intimate-wear suppliers and pouch covers.