This topic is about exploring intimacy, dating, and coming out after having ostomy surgery. The writer, who has been cancer-free for five years, hasn't been involved in a romantic relationship since her surgery. While she finds self-pleasure fulfilling, she wonders if she's missing out on her full sexual potential. Recently, she came out to some family members as a lifelong lesbian. Now, as someone who enjoys staying at home and has a changed body image, she's looking for simple and practical ways to meet a potential female partner.

Here are some suggestions and insights:

1. Internet dating platforms:
- Create an online profile that includes your gender preference, age range, religion, and other preferences.
- Start with free dating sites, as many paid ones charge just to register.
- Be patient with the matches you receive; it’s a way to get noticed without leaving home.
- Remember safety: never send money or share personal information like your address or financial details until you meet someone and feel secure.

2. In-person, low-key social options:
- Consider attending church or other faith-based events if they align with your interests.
- Join local community group trips, such as bus excursions or hobby clubs.
- Participate in traditional or creative group activities like quilting circles, craft meet-ups, or classes.

3. Focus on loving yourself first: Building confidence and self-acceptance after surgery can make future relationships easier.

4. A specific suggestion for connecting with others: Start a new thread in the forum’s “Intimacy & Dating” section titled “Looking for Other Lesbians” to connect with women in similar situations. If posting requires a paid membership, another member has offered to open the thread on your behalf.