I wanna hear all the reasons!

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mia17
Oct 27, 2025 6:30 pm

Why do you love your ostomy? The last couple of mornings, I woke up thinking about the little ways I'm thankful for mine, like I'm much more in tune with my body now and I have the cleanest butt in all the land without even needing to wipe! What are yours? I'm looking forward to hearing and adding to my list!

xnine
Oct 27, 2025 6:56 pm
Very helpful

I can poop in line at the grocery store.

Night owl
Oct 27, 2025 7:17 pm
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My daily life and activities don't revolve around being near a bathroom or fear of not getting to the bathroom in time. I may need to get to one sooner than later (and sometimes it's still too late), but for the most part, I don't have to run or waddle! 😜

I can poop anywhere and no one knows, and if I'm outside, I don't have to squat to empty!

Posted by: Nini4

Well,  I  hit the two year mark. I went back and read my posts from when I first found this site. I was very fortunate in that I stumbled upon it only 4 weeks post op. I have said many times that this community really saved me. The first 2 weeks after my surgery I shut down completely. It wasn't until about the 3rd week that my son came in to my room, flicked on the light and told me I was going to have to get back to living because I was scaring him. I had fallen into such a depression.  He  ticked me off,  but it also made me stop and think- what was I going to do? Feel sorry for myself and sulk, or be grateful I was alive. 

I've re-read my journals from that time and it was after my son kicked my butt, so to speak, I took an honest inventory and had to dig deeper than I've ever had to. I mean, I had survived a pretty nasty divorce, after a pretty crappy marriage and that was tough. But this was different. I felt like I was now a handicapped person who would be limited in their life and be looked at as a freak. My mental state was precarious, at best. 

But then I found this site. I just lurked a bit before posting. I read so many of the other stories and I started to see just how full my life can be, I was not handicapped,  and certainly not a freak! The stories of survival, the sense of humor, the support and compassion was inspiring.  It was then I made myself get out of the dark, and get my sh*t together.  

Not all rainbows and sunshine at first, hardly! But with grace from myself - to myself, and the kindness and willingness of the folks here to be supportive, non judgemental and openly share intimate details about their life circumstances,  l not only survived but thrived. 

I think of all the years I had suffered with such extreme pain, barely functioning,  and the many hospital stays and how that is all behind me now.  (All fingers, toes, and legs crossed that I never have to go near a hospital for myself ever again. I think I'd rather have a fork stuck in my eye. I loathe every about them.)  

So, to everyone who has been a part of this journey with me, to say thank you is not enough. I'm forever grateful to know you all.  My Angels, each one of you. 

 And as the Grateful Dead famously said,

"what a long strange trip it's been!"

Im so happy I'm tripping with you all.


Ben38
Oct 27, 2025 7:52 pm

I would have been dead by the age of 25; now I'm the ripe old age of 56. Life hasn't been a bed of roses; I have multiple health problems now, just how it goes. All the things I would have missed out on, it's only a stoma. Love it to bits for giving the gift of life. Life's what you yourself make of it; get out there and live it!

TerryLT
Oct 27, 2025 8:50 pm
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Let me count the ways! My stoma allows me to be an amazing multi-tasker. No more time wasted sitting on the loo. I can poop while shopping, doing housework, going for a walk, even eating dinner in a nice restaurant! I am no longer in constant pain and discomfort. Of course, the most important reason is that I wouldn't be alive without it. I am grateful every day.

Terry

 

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Cplumber
Oct 27, 2025 10:09 pm

I would have died at age 28 and wouldn't have seen my 7 kids and 14 grandkids grow up.

Enough said ❤️

Nini4
Oct 27, 2025 10:11 pm

I'm alive and pain-free!

SusanT
Oct 27, 2025 10:15 pm

I love my urostomy because I can hook it up to a night bag and sleep through the night no matter how much I drink. I'm looking forward to hooking it up on car trips and skipping the bathroom stops. And now I can pee standing up. No need to sit in sketchy public restrooms.

I love my colostomy because it stopped the leaking of poop into my vagina and my bladder. I have clean, controlled output. Everything is where it is supposed to be. I can now poop whenever I want and go to the bathroom when it's convenient. I definitely feel cleaner and more in charge.

I love them both for giving me my life. I would be dead without them.

footlonghawk39
Oct 28, 2025 5:06 am

I'm alive for one, and I've learned humility with my stoma. Knowing and acknowledging my limitations, I've also gone through a great weight loss journey, losing 95 lbs. Only 5 more till I hit 100 lbs lost. I've never felt healthier, and gone are the days that I have to worry about if a toilet is clean enough to sit on. 😁

sj68
Oct 28, 2025 6:07 am

Would have been dead at 17, now pain-free, healthy, and enjoying life.😁

IGGIE
Oct 28, 2025 6:31 am

Many, many years of being a slave to the toilet and near death's door. Now my stoma is so perfect I sometimes forget to change it because it gives me no problems, so I put a sticker on the toilet saying CHANGE BAG to remind me. Yes, I love my ileostomy 🥰🎈

Regards, IGGIE

ron in mich
Oct 28, 2025 1:04 pm

Hi all, I don't know if I love my ileo, but I'm glad it saved my life.

infinitycastle52777
Oct 28, 2025 3:28 pm

I would have died of COVID if I didn't have my ostomy. My ostomy has personality. He farts hello to me to keep me company. I get to laugh a lot more because of my ostomy. It hasn't slowed me down or prevented me from doing anything I want to do. No one knows I have one unless I tell them. I have gotten a lot healthier and lost more weight because I needed to for my ostomy and for my hernia repair. It's made me a better problem solver.

Heidi B.
Oct 28, 2025 4:49 pm

Congrats on the weight loss! That shows inner strength...which us ostomates have.

Heidi B.
Oct 28, 2025 4:55 pm

Great question! Like others, I'm happy to just be around to write this, and I'm so glad to be done with dis-impacting myself, lol. I like to think of myself as a superhero survivor (hope that doesn't sound vain; I think we all are)...feels good when I can dress up, teach a class, hike, etc., and I still look good; nobody knows I'm wearing a bag!

P.S. I have the prettiest and sweetest kitty named Mia😽

warrior
Oct 29, 2025 12:53 am

We are the few, the proud, the Stomarines.

rlevineia
Nov 02, 2025 4:20 pm

Love? No, grateful. My little buddy saved my life! We have a conversation when he belches. No one calls me an AH anymore. I do use a lot of TP. Too short to lick my pouch clean!! hahaha


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Peabody
Nov 02, 2025 9:51 pm

I have had my ileostomy for 58 years. Yes, I'm old now, but I wasn't when I had the surgery. In spite of all the years, I remember clearly how sick I was, how much medicine I had to take, and how even dating was difficult. How do you explain to your date you don't want popcorn at the movies or find very little on a restaurant menu that complies with a low-residue diet? When the docs at Mayo told me there was no other option, I thanked them and said, "What took you so long? Let's get this done so I can start living." And that's what I have been doing all these years. There have been ups and downs like everyone else, with or without an ostomy. It saved my life, and I'm grateful for that. My ostomy gave me back a healthy life and continues to do so. That's why I love the ostomy.

Jane.

Mad Carpenter
Nov 03, 2025 4:15 am

Mia,

I had UC back in the 80s when it was not talked about out loud. I am now in my late 60s, which I don't believe I would have accomplished without a stoma. I've been married for almost 48 years, and now I am thoroughly enjoying not only our kids but also our wonderful 5 grandchildren. Even after getting my first ileostomy, I was sure that after all the alterations and associated issues, I probably wouldn't live to 60. I was so wrong; I am just retiring now, and my wife and I are currently knocking things off our bucket list. I just got back from the Canary Islands. Life is great with a stoma, as it gives you your life back.

Bertha
Nov 03, 2025 4:52 am

Apart from the fact that my stoma saved my life, I can eat and poop at the same time and, unlike others, not have to leave the table.

Panda85
Nov 03, 2025 5:03 pm

I love 💕 that I can never be accused of breaking wind in a room. 😊

🐼85

robertlsingleton
Nov 04, 2025 12:11 am

I can relate to that, it saved my life but also changed my life.

Immarsh
Nov 04, 2025 12:38 am

My ostomy gave me my life back. After 4 years of medical treatments and months of hospitalizations, surgery was the only option left. I was 15. That was more than 60 years ago! Since then, I dated, married, had two children, went back to college, worked as a teacher, traveled around the country (in the co-pilot seat of a single-engine plane), traveled around the world: Africa, China, Europe, Japan, Australia, and more. I cruised around the Caribbean and to Mexico and Alaska, walked on a glacier, swam in the Dead Sea, and went scuba diving. Would never have been able to do all the above.

Pouch Potato
Nov 04, 2025 5:20 am
Very helpful

Love this thread. Thanks for the laughs, all!

warrior
Nov 04, 2025 6:03 am

Just accused of breaking hearts, then? 🤦😉 Instead of breaking wind?

Peabody
Nov 04, 2025 2:41 pm

Your replies always make me smile. I write the date I changed the appliance on the tape around the appliance to remind me when I changed it! I am impressed with all the posts that show that life can be rich, meaningful, and with a sense of humor to boot. My best wishes to all who use this site; we possess a very special kind of courage.

Peabody.

Peabody
Nov 04, 2025 2:43 pm

Exactly!!!!!

mia17
Nov 05, 2025 8:20 pm

Aww yay, this makes me feel so happy!

mia17
Nov 05, 2025 8:21 pm

Aww, kitties are adorable! I'm so glad you shared and that you're here with us too 💛💛