Topic Explanation:
The forum topic is about seeking advice on dating with an ileostomy. The person is looking for suggestions on how to navigate the dating scene after their husband left them following the surgery.
Advice and Insights:
- Take time to get to know the person before divulging your ostomy, as building an interpersonal relationship first can lead to more understanding and acceptance.
- Keep ostomy issues to yourself and deal with it naturally without making a big deal out of it, as the other person is likely not to either.
- For women, there are ways to feel sexy with an ostomy bag, such as using mini-bags, pretty bag covers, two-way lingerie tape, and odor-proof disposal bags.
- Don't use the ostomy as an "excuse" and don't wear it on your sleeve, as the relationship may or may not be right for one of you, and blaming the ostomy too quickly may not be fair.
- Live life to the fullest and be yourself, and when meeting someone, continue to be you without necessarily leading off with the fact that you have an ostomy.
- The ileostomy pouch is not a problem, and it will be natural once you are used to it.
- It's about how you think and the ability to be a little creative, and there are many ways to maintain sensuality with an ostomy.
- Many people have had successful relationships and intimate experiences with an ostomy, and handling it positively and confidently can make a difference.
Positive Encouragement:
- The advice given is positive and reassuring, and there are many success stories of people with ostomies having fulfilling relationships and intimate experiences.
- The experiences shared by others who have had an ostomy for many years are encouraging and show that it's possible to have a fulfilling dating life with an ostomy.
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