When you're dating, deciding when to share personal health details, like having a colostomy, can be a bit tricky. It's understandable to wonder about the right time to bring it up. Here's some advice and insights from others who have faced similar situations:

1. Many people find that sharing this information early on, perhaps during the first or second date, can be beneficial. It helps reduce anxiety, quickly reveals if someone is not a good match, and allows both parties to decide if they want to continue the relationship.

2. Some suggest waiting until the relationship seems like it might become intimate or long-term. If it's just a casual encounter, the approach might be different.

3. How you share this information can make a big difference. Speaking with confidence, using humor, and presenting it as just one of many facts about yourself can help. Keeping the tone light can make others feel more comfortable.

4. For a creative way to share, consider having a custom fortune cookie made with a message like “You’re dating someone who has a stoma” and presenting it in a playful manner.

5. Looking at previous discussions on similar topics can offer additional perspectives and experiences, which might be helpful.