This topic is about a community member who has noticed that even though many users are logged into a site, the chat room often remains quiet. They are curious about what everyone is doing and encourage more participation to keep the community lively.

Here are some insights and advice shared by others:

1. When you see members listed as "online," it might just mean they are logged in somewhere on the site, not necessarily in the chat room.

2. Some users experience technical issues:
- Entering the chat room might make it appear empty or show someone leaving at the same time.
- One-to-one chat requests might not always connect successfully.

3. If you type slowly, it can seem like you've stepped away. Letting others know can help keep the conversation going.

4. If chat isn't working, try using private messages or the site's email system for real-time conversations and to build connections.

5. Many members prefer to "lurk" for various reasons:
- They might feel shy or are still adjusting to their ostomy.
- They may want to share sensitive information only in private.
- They might not feel they have enough expertise to contribute publicly.
- They could be waiting for a topic that interests them before joining in.

6. Even if they don't participate, silent members can still find comfort and information by reading.

7. Regular posters are encouraged to keep starting discussions. Their activity is valuable and might eventually encourage quieter members to join the conversation.