Depression and Relationship Struggles After Ostomy Surgery

I want out. I'm so tired. I want out.

Tatdude, have you been feeling this way for two years? Maybe you've taken baby steps forward and then some going back. No one should tell you that you should be happy; that's just presumptuous and rude. By the way, are they saying "grateful" or "happy?" You're only hurting yourself by staying stuck on what you think you're hearing, what you think you should be feeling, and what you lost. Grieving is normal, but when it starts to take over or lasts a really long time, it might be time to talk to a professional who can help you move past where you are now.

Hi Tatdude, I agree with eefyjig; I think you need support by talking to someone.

It is a lot to deal with and a mental strain.

When I realize I'm going to have to live with this attachment for the rest of my days, it brings me up short sometimes.

All I can say is one day at a time and be kind to yourself 🫂

It's five years this month, and it hasn't gotten any easier.

Is there anyone you can talk to face to face? I know it's hard because non-ostomates don't understand. Is there a support group locally, maybe?

I have bad days and good days. Do you always feel low, or do you feel okay sometimes?

My Ostomy Journey: Ryan | Hollister

Five years is a long time to be in the rut you're in. What things have you done to improve your situation? If depression is making it hard for you to make a move, ask someone you trust to do it for you. Nothing is assured in life, but one thing is certain: if you do nothing, nothing will change.

I've tried, or at least I think I've tried. It's very difficult to find somebody who wants to deal with being in a relationship with somebody with a bag. Maybe I set my sights too high. And once you get into a rut, it's hard to get out of it. My depression is real, and so are my suicidal tendencies. I guess eventually one will win.

I'm up and down, and yes, I 100% agree. If you don't know what it is to live with an ostomy, please don't tell me how to.