Hi kimberley
If you have somebody who loved you previously, then I'm sure they still love you. Your life can continue once you can accept your circumstances. I was the same, and I now wear a level 1 hernia belt to cover my pouch when intimacy arrives. Be honest with yourself and your partner
I've had my ostomy for 61 years now -- I was 15 and had been suffering from ulcerative colitis for several years. I'm now 76, and I had a very active life once I adjusted. I've certainly slowed down now, but I didn't let my ostomy stand in the way for many years. Good luck to you.
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Hi, Kimberley, the most important thing you should remember about your colostomy bag/stoma is that you are still enjoying a life that could have been totally different for you and your family. God bless.
Hi Kimberly, please don't feel alone.
I have the same thing. You just need
someone that is going through the same
thing. And you'd be surprised how this
would help you. I wish we were closer.
I would really help you. Joy USA
Hi Kimberly, I texted you once before.
I hope you received it because I am
exactly where you are ……
I was born with bowel issues, too. Battled my whole life. Got a bleeding diverticulum, and the hospital gave me C. diff on top of it. Ate my colon like acid. Ileostomy in 2019. I have an aversion to any contact with my "little buddy." When anyone hugs me, I turn a bit to the right, unconsciously. I know it's to avoid any touching to it. I wear a stealth belt and a stoma dome (if very active). I still turn away! You are a newbie. Take your time and be gentle with yourself. A pretty young woman like you will meet friends (men). You don't have to be intimate. Start with being a friend. If and when you feel comfortable with them, intimacy will come.