Struggling with feeling unattractive - seeking advice on boosting self-esteem

Replies
32
Views
18757
Primeboy
Jul 13, 2016 4:16 am

When I first visited this site in early 2011, I was curious how people were adjusting to the challenges of the ostomy. At the time, I was in my mid 60's and felt that the best years of my life were enjoyed and that any extra good years were all gravy. Sure, there were a few bumps left on the road. I remember while driving to teach a class one afternoon I found a nasty surprise under my belt. I had to deal with the situation and take steps to avoid it in the future. I eventually found a lot of great practical ideas here; but, more importantly, I found a spirit especially in young people that rejects despair. Over time I have come to appreciate that the cards I have been dealt are as valuable as my mind chooses, no more or no less.

PB

LadyHope
Jul 16, 2016 4:47 pm

These are valuable words of wisdom, PB. Thank you for sharing them as always. Take care and enjoy your weekend. LadyHope

Gray Logo for MeetAnOstoMate

Justbreathe

MeetAnOstoMate website turned out to be a lifesaver for me. I say this because, for me, this ostomy journey was a devastating event both physically and mentally.
Here, I found folks who understood my feelings even better than my family or friends could. Only a fellow ostomate can understand how you really feel.

Information sharing is key, as well as support and understanding, to ultimately bring more harmony into our ostomy life journey. I found here, virtually no ostomy questions that are not touched upon. Questions which some might feel, may be too trivial to contact a doctor about or even too shy or embarrassed to ask their own doctor about. They are all addressed here.

For me, anonymity was very helpful in seeking answers to each phase of this life changing medical and mental event. Sharing initial trauma feelings, ongoing support and finally acceptance was what I found with my membership here. I am not sure what my mental and physical attitude would be today without having found this site.

Additional benefits included: finding products and ideas to help with daily maintenance, innovative ideas and as a bonus - some great humor.
After all “laughter IS the best medicine”.

I have been a member for 3 years, an ostomate for 4 years - yes, I certainly wish I would have found it immediately after surgery but so very thankful I finally found it when I did as I truly believe it turned my troubled depression and situation into a more positive attitude and acceptance.

Sincerely,
An Ileostomate nicknamed Justbreathe 🫶🏼

ycats
Nov 12, 2016 12:59 am

I just finished a post on the subject......