To all women,
A sincere happy International Women's Day... Thought this might be the appropriate day to voice the disturbing, yet not surprising, frequency of women's experiences with dating (with an ostomy) compared to that of men's. It's more than unfortunate that almost exclusively women have faced the "Oh, you have an ostomy?.... Is that what I think it.... Umm... Ok, I'll call you... Maybe" reaction when the 'big reveal' happens, while men are often met with empathy and understanding. I think the trepidation of telling a date goes across the board for all genders/sexes, but I think the expectancy of it being a 'deal breaker' is vastly one-sided.
Anyway, I've not (yet) had to experience this firsthand, as I was married when I had my ileostomy surgery in 2010 and continued to be up until recently. I would hope that I wouldn't have had the view that so many men have had, but I don't know, without having gone through it, that I would have :( Again, I hope I would have.
Stay strong! :)