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Hi everybody, been processing my latest diagnoses, rectal adenocarcinoma. Mind boggling to me to have cancer of something I no longer have. 
I start Folfox chemo on the 14th and and have my port installed that morning. They can't start off full speed because of my current condition. So it will be a gentle ramp up to full strength. 
Not gonna lie, after everything I've been through the last couple years I really don't even want to do chemo or radiation if it comes to that point. I watched my mother battle breast cancer for 30 years before it finally took her at 56, my dad died of pancreatic cancer at 50. I've said for years I'd get it in some form at 53 and here we are. 
My surgeon apparently thinks he has a future in comedy, he told me I've handled all the surgeries, biopsies, etc, etc, I handled very well. I actually laughed in his face at that one. Maybe he's thinking of a different patient because every time he's operated on me he's found something new and worse.
At least it explains the pain. Thanks for reading.

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Oh Abe, I am so sorry to hear this. 😔 My heart goes out to you. ❤️

PS I'm always here for you if you just need to talk or vent or whatever.  ❤️


Stay strong and take it 1 day at a time. I'm glad to see you got a port. I did mine thru a regular IV cause I thought I was tough enough to withstand how many rounds I did. I tell everyone now to get a port, it got horrible going thru an IV. The only other real advice I can give you is listen to your doctors, literally take it one day at a time and go with how you feel each day, and eat as much as you can. 


Oh man, keep your mind on good things, good times, good eats & drinks, etc.  For "etc" just fill in the blank, my friend.  I'm pulling hard for you.  HenryM


So sorry to hear that Abe . Hope you hang in there and put up with all this Crap !!! We need your voice of reason out here in the world !! ☘💚. 

  Kitty told me that she would not do treatment if her breast cancer recurred ...I told her I could accept her wishes but I would still ask her to do it , I would have to appeal to her if it ever happened . Well Kitty beat Cancer for twelve years !! No sign of return !! It was a blood clot that took her life but my Sweetie beat the cancer .  She described how punishing it is so I have a Little insight ...just a little compared to what the patient experiences . 

   I hope your treatment goes well Abe ...we are all cheering for you and many praying for you ( I don't really do prayers ) . Hang in there Dude ☘💚👍.  Magoo .


Behind every cloud there is a silver lining. As the treatment proceeds you will find yourself improving every day. All the best wishes.


So sorry to hear that!  Hang in there buddy!  Life can sure be tough some times.  Sending warm thoughts and prayers your way!


Oh Abe, I'm so sorry you have such a big thing you have to deal with. You've had way more than your share and it doesn't seem fair. Please know I am sending healing thoughts from NY to MA. And, if you're running the gamut of thoughts and emotions,  just consider - we are of our parents but we're not them so their experience doesn't indicate ours exactly.


So sorry Abe, prayers for strength and healing. Don't be too hard on your's a tough job giving good folks bad news . If I can do anything for you just ask. 


Hi Abe

As everyone else has said sorry to hear the shit news. One step at a time and don't let the bastard beat you. On the crap days reach out to us and you will soon be laughing, also think about the nice ball park and seeing family to lighten up the load. You can do this Abe your stronger than it. Remember we are here for you so lean on us whenever you want to. XX 💗


Hi Abe sorry to hear about your recent DX but you,ve beat your other obstacles especially the ostomy, stay strong. 


Holy moly, Abe. Seems to me you're a bit overdue for a break in the health dept. It also seems, however, that you're the kind of guy to kick some cancer ass. So I'm not even going to wait. I'm going to start celebrating your cancer's demise right now. Hang tough until then. In the meantime, If I can help. . .


Hi Abe,

Damn - sorry to hear about your diagnosis. You have many awesome friends on this site. On those days when 'strong' seems impossible, we are all here for you. I am keeping you in my thoughts and hoping the very, very best for you. Karen


I am so very sorry to hear your news.  I hope it does bring some comfort to know you have so many friends here pulling for you.  You are stronger than you think, and I am sure you will prevail and things will get better.  You just need to believe, and not give up.  Please try to keep a positive attitude.  It is so important.  We are here for you any time you need a lift.  



Abe so sorry about this latest news...I like you can't wrap my head around the fact I don't have bowel but got cancer...You will be on same chemo meds I take...if ya need to chat a friend a shoulder or sounding board reach out my friend...

Your Homie with a Stomie

Stay strong 💪 


So sorry to hear this Abe! I had the same thing. Chemo meds (Folfox) weren't too bad. The cold sensitivity was the worst. Make sure you get Aloxi for nausea with every infusion. And like Alex said, eat as much as you can. I'll he praying for you!


Sorry to hear about this. I have exactly the same problem, I'm just a bit further down the road after having 8 rounds of FolFox and surgery to remove the tumour (hence my ileostomy). I too had the chemotherapy via the port which is much more convenient than standard IV. 

FolFox is no picnic, but it is the standard treatment. If you have any questions I am happy to share my experience with this so far. Take care and stay strong. 


Thinking of you, Abe, and hoping you're handling the start of treatment ok.


Hi Abe.


Abe--I'm so sorry for your recent diagnosis-sending good vibes for strengh-remember you are a warrior! Please feel free to reach out-hugs

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