Reply to AlexT
He is not very active due to a prior stroke. However, he does go to maintenance therapy twice a week. Since the stroke he has always worn depends when going out. Basically, just because he felt more secure with them. Now with the ileostomy he continues to wear them because he feels if he does have a leak, most will stay in the depends. We really didn't have any issues until the other night when he wore pants that seemed tighter around the waste. So it appeared to me the waistband of both the pants and depends were directly over the stoma. And when the output started it really had nowhere to go but push out around the wafer. So I'm thinking if he wears the stealthbelt and regular underwear (which are not as tight) that might not happen.
We found supplies and a system that seems to work for us. We still get the occasional leak and luckily we've always been home when it happens. And to be honest I can usually pinpoint why it leaked (wafer or bag should have been changed earlier, pancaking, food eaten, etc).
He's only had the ileostomy since May, so I guess we are still learning. But it is frustrating at times and I'm so thankful for this group. Sometimes I just need to vent.