When I was 21, I started to have some symptoms of what a specialist would later call a chronic illness, colitis. After 2 years handling it the best I could, I was having symptoms again, but it took me some time to realize the suppositories were out of date. So, one day at work, I couldn't get to the toilet on time because I had to go running. That was going to be my first time in a hospital due to the severity of the illness inflammation. The following year, 2004, I decided to go to Oxford to improve my English. However, it wasn't 2 weeks until new symptoms were happening, and I ended up in the hospital, where they said it was better to do surgery and remove most of my colon.
In 2005, they did a second part of the reservoir and finally, they took out the bag stoma. I gotta say that year was hard.
Even though everything has been better since then, my pelvic wall got tense, and I can't find anyone with patience enough to wait for the intimate relations, so I just assume I'll always be alone, never married nor have kids. Anyone else with this problem?

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