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Has anybody had a proctectomy and ended up with a barbie butt (anus sewed up) but have still managed to have children after the fact? I'm sorry, I know its personal but I have to have the rest of my retum and anus taken away but I really want children in the future, but there are risks of infertility on this surgery because of it being a pelvic operation. I need some reassurance that it could be possible to still have children after this, worst feeling ever🥺

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I bet there’s a few. Hope everything goes good for you. 


Youl be fine I'm a male and thay said it could affect me down yonder but I'm fine, iv had it all taken out down their no brown round either iv lived with it 35 yrs. Still woody.few complications, but still manage 


George Burns:  "sex at my age is like shooting pool with  linguini."

Those who can relate, raise... your..... hand..

It is my understanding, there can be issues with this surgery. I guess it depends on the surgeon skill.

Hope you can research the hell out of this question and solve the mystery. Have you considered freezing your eggs, perhaps? 


Hi Lauren,

I have read about ileostomy Mums (with complete proctectomy) who have had no issues.  Am sure I've read some posts about being pregnant with an ostomy on here, hopefully they see this post and can offer advice.

Are you on any social media ostomy groups (I know there are many facebook and instagram ostomy groups based in the UK).

and below is an Australian girl who has had children since having an ileostomy.

Hope you can find the help and information you are looking for.



Hi Lauren22

I've had a proctectomy with a barbie butt from Crohn's Disease In my mid twentys. Four years after my surgery I had a emergency C-section to deliver a 3lb. baby boy 10 weeks premature, because my kidneys had shut down. I could not stay hydrated even with IV fluids administered at the hospital. My son is 29 years old now and six feet tall with no health issues from his premature birth. And fortunately for me I have no lasting damage to my kidneys. I'm very active and staying hydrated is not an issue. I have my original stoma with no revisions or no hernias and rarely have leaks or blowouts for 33 years now. I've had no issues with fertility and had to use birth control. Hope I've helped with your concerns and good luck. Darlene 


Check with gynecologist and your surgeon too.

Reply to warrior

I don't see many hands raised here. That activity doesn't cease with age. Some older ones are deadlier than the younger ones. Best wishes.

Reply to sosweet

Thank you so much, this does make me feel much better, so glad your ok still and that you have a healthy baby! 😊 

Reply to J🙂

Thank you so much 😊

Reply to warrior

I have considered it but my surgery is very soon as its classed as an emergency surgery, once I was healed from my first surgery my UC is still very active and now I have to have the rest out as soon as possible, Plus its so expensive - I would have loved to have done this, however my surgeon did say that there won't be any need to do this because he's confident I'll be OK, but there's always that bit of fear in me about not having children 😪

Reply to timcasey815

Thank you 😊 glad your still ok! 

Reply to AlexT

Thank you ☺️


That affliction understandably raises many fears most are unfounded at the end yours will go the same way. Many encouraging words written here by some who were in the same boat as you. All the best wishes.

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