Facing Tough Choices: My 2009 Surgical Consultation

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lottagelady
Dec 29, 2009 8:40 pm
In September 2009 I had my 6 monthly visit with my surgeon.
This time I saw someone different. He had obviously had a discussion with the
team and they had decided that they had 'failed' me. He said that I needed surgery to repair my hernia - in order to facilitate a successful repair they would need to relocate my stoma to the other side, terminate the ileum so that it can no longer malfunction and do another repair to the fistula. I was horrified - I had decided I wanted no more of it as I just didn't think my body could take any more. He said that I needed to do this as my abdominal symptoms would get worse due to the size of my hernia and to stop any further incontinence. He said he would give me 8 weeks to consider it, but had listed me anyway! He also stated that I should be looking to decide whether or not I would prefer a permanent ileostomy or a colostomy and what I would like done with my rectum should the repair be unsuccessful again (which from that I suspect they have their doubts!). Two weeks after that consultation, I ended up in hospital - the stoma was once again malfunctioning, I was in serious agony, incontinent again and they thought that there might be a blockage. Fortunately there wasn't and things settled overnight. I needed the surgery, and I was listed for January 2010.
aayushi
Jan 11, 2010 4:22 am

Hey, don't worry, everything will be fine after your surgery. I was also in such a dilemma that my condition would be worse after ileostomy, but that's not the case now. I am happier and my life is now totally different and cheering, so I prefer a permanent ileostomy...

Marjatta

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Sure, there's also a lot of camaraderie, fun topics, and laughs, but the main reason I come here is for the total acceptance I get from the members. No one else on the planet could possibly "get" what I'm going through, not even my loving husband or supportive family.

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M
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