Morning all,
Good morning to all my OstoMates. I am thankful for this site; it has been such a big help. My question to you all is, what is wrong with people? I have had my years of problems with Crohn's. I have always worked and still work, even after so many surgeries that I lost count. The last one I did get a colostomy, which is not a big deal to me after everything I have been through. Now, two prolapses, lung cancer which they got, peri-anal fistulas which I still have, and now problems with my legs. They think it's nerve ends from so many surgeries. I still keep going, just can't do everything I used to.
My problem is the people around me. They are insensitive, or maybe I am just taking their comments wrong. My friends still think I can do what I used to. I do poop out real fast. I don't make long-term plans anymore as I have had to cancel on occasions due to getting sick. If you didn't know me, you would never know I have a chronic illness. But I get comments like, "Are you sitting home feeling sorry for yourself?" or "What is your problem that you can't make it?" These are just some of the comments, and it is starting to piss me off. I am starting to wish that they would get sick more than a cold, to see how it is daily to get up, go to work all day, and have somewhat of a social life. I am 62 years old, not 40 anymore.
Like I said, what is wrong with people? I don't like feeling like this about other people. Am I missing something?
Thanks much,
Spade

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