So 13 years ago I had my bladder ;removed along with my prostate and 16 lymph nodes. A Urostoma was installed. I was very lucky and for some reason I healed very quickly and was back to work in 3 weeks. Twice I had a nurse show me how to change my bag and I was discharged from the hospital in a week and never saw another nurse.
But I then noticed I never got an erection of any kind. As it turns out, an erection is produce not just with blood ( I have a full compliment of blood ) but by a nerve. During the operation to save my life this nerve is severed. That's it.....no more erections, hence.......no more hanky-panky! ;I was not told this would actually happen, my operating Dr said I might have a problem but there were ways around it.
So was this a big deal? At the time I was devastated!
After some time and thought, my opinion gradually reformed for a number of reasons. First off I was not 20 years old I had just turned 60. I had been noticing, as did my wife of 40 years that my erections weren't the bone hard they were in the past. Well to be honest the p bone hard thing was fading quickly into memory. So destiny was now in charge of the whole situation. Sex was on the way out anyway as I was not now or ever going to depend on chemicals to help out in the bedroom. That seem just weird to us. So here we are I'm now 81 ( a few days ago ) and my wife and I are as much I love as ever if not more every day.
We have 4 lovely grandchildren and a very close knit loving family, what more could a couple want later in life.
Think about this if you lose your bladder and prostate and erection......it is only the end of the world if you let it be.