An accoutrement or prosthetic?

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Bill
Aug 11, 2023 7:13 am

AN ACCOUTREMENT OR PROSTHETIC?

A stoma is an extra bit 
to help us cope with all our shit.
Just a bit of our colon 
protruding from our abdomen. 

How do we perceive this thing?
And what emotions does it bring? 
We know it’s artificial so
is it a friend or is it foe? 

Maybe we can’t assimilate
and feelings tend to oscillate
between a fond appreciation
or feeling some humiliation.  

As and when we’re reflective
many different perspectives
can spring to mind about our lot
and this appendage that we’ve got.

I use a glue for prosthetics
and so I felt the aesthetics
of my stoma would apply
to a prosthetic gone awry.

But yesterday I shared a thought 
about accoutrements which brought
a response from Terry who
had spent some time to think this through.

She felt ‘accoutrements’ described 
the stoma she had on her side,
and this perspective helped her to
a more positive point of view.

I like to think when said and done,
that you and me and everyone
who has a stoma can adjust 
in whatever way we must.

                                            B. Withers 2023

TerryLT
Aug 11, 2023 9:16 pm
Love it!
Bill
Aug 12, 2023 6:49 am
Hello everyone.Thanks for all the 'likes' and thanks to Terry for a written comment as well. These 'like' ticks mean a lot because they indicate that people have indeed read and appreciated the rhymesOtherwise the effort of writing and the posting would be 'blind' as to whether it was worthwhile.Best wishes
nBill
Posted by: GoinWithTheFlow

Hubz had a regular checkup with the oncologist on Friday (his numbers are improving), and as they were asking how he's feeling since surgery, they became curious about how he's doing so well with his ostomy, both physically and mentally. He credited doing research online, trying different things, and especially the support from this group. They were asking because they see so many patients struggling to adjust.

We described this group as folks with every kind of ostomy, some for days while others for decades, but all willing to share what's worked for them with the caveat that every individual is different.

We described the most valuable element as feeling like you're not alone in this. That really piqued their interest, and they wrote down the link. It seems they had a few people in mind that might benefit from the community and thanked us for telling them about it.

You know, we can't remember exactly who we learned about this group from, but we're grateful for it every day! Thank you all! 🌻

Justbreathe
Aug 13, 2023 5:45 pm

Bill

Your poetry is amazing and full of facts and humor, and I for one enjoy reading it. Thanks...

I found myself, however, wanting to express my feelings regarding this one on accouterments.

I always thought of accoutrements
as referring to things I liked to eat,
and therefore such a special treat.

But Bill has opened up my eyes
with a suggestion I view it as
a better way to accessorize.

Since my stoma was made for poo,
it's difficult for me to think
of it as other than a stink.

The word accouterment for me
should only mean mayonnaise
and memories of happier days.

Although I must admit to all,
your poetry is full of humor;
my stoma is but an ugly tumor.

Submitted with humor and great respect, jb