Has anyone found a good butt cushion after having a Barbie butt surgery? When I get out of the hospital and back to somewhat of a normal life, I'd like to be able to attend my church again, but we have hard metal chairs to sit on, and I've been trying to look for a good butt cushion. If anyone has any recommendations, I'd love to hear them. Thank you.
Nici83
Aug 19, 2025 5:46 pm
warrior
Aug 19, 2025 6:21 pm
Hi.. welcome.
The thought regarding a safe cushion means not to stretch butt cheeks when sitting like you used to on a toilet.
So no donut-type cushion.
What I used was homemade.
I just kept thinking, "how to keep cheeks close, not parted."
Some others will chime in with their best recommendations.
Sitting in a "V" type of cushion would be ideal.
Two rolled-up towels under the sides of each cheek worked for me.
You might need to bring a special chair to church.
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AlexT
Aug 19, 2025 9:43 pm
A thick (4 inches or more) piece of memory foam if you want to make your own. Or they make cushions specifically for butt surgeries that you can get. No donut 🍩 style cushion with any sort of hole because it will put added pressure where you were sewn shut.
SusanT
Aug 20, 2025 12:14 am
Purple seat cushions from purple.com
They were recommended to me in rehab. Pricey, but I wouldn't be without mine.
I didn't have the Barbie butt surgery, but I was having significant tailbone pain, and this made a huge difference.
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Nici83
Aug 20, 2025 12:16 am
Do you know what the specific cushion is called or where I might buy one?
Zebedee64
Aug 20, 2025 12:33 am
After having my Barbie butt, I used a normal pillow when traveling in the car and sitting in the doctor's office. It worked the best for me.
AlexT
Aug 20, 2025 4:54 pm
I was given one like this from my hospital. You only inflate it about halfway so it adjusts to your butt and isn't “hard” to sit on.
anyark
Aug 23, 2025 7:50 pm
My WOCN gave me a waffle cushion, partially inflated. It's absolutely the best thing, and I highly recommend it. I used it at home and took it when I went out, in the car, and even to restaurants. They are more readily available than when I had my surgery in 2012. They are on Amazon, and I even saw some on the Walmart site. Just type in "waffle cushion" when you do a search. I think mine is 16 or 17 inches square. Wishing you the best. You're smart to be looking now.
I just remembered when I got mine, the only place I could find them online was ehob.com, I believe.
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Nici83
Aug 24, 2025 12:22 am
Thank you. I'll keep your suggestion in mind. It's just I'm a bigger woman and would be afraid to pop the inflatable cushions.
Chevichump
Aug 24, 2025 9:49 am
Hi, not sure it's the thing for use immediately after surgery, but I was gifted a silicone honeycomb gel cushion, and it works pretty well for me when I'm using outdoor furniture. They're not expensive and are readily available on Amazon. They seem to be a generic design.
Lulume
Aug 24, 2025 3:36 pm
A soft cushion that fits on your chair or car seat is quite comfortable.
JBUK99
Aug 24, 2025 8:54 pm
Valley Cushion was loaned to me by my hospital in the UK - week 8 from surgery now and my “throne” travels everywhere with me.
https://thevalleycushion.co.uk/
Nici83
Aug 25, 2025 12:29 am
My "barbie butt" is almost healed. I'm about two and a half months out from my surgery. I just need it for car rides and church.
Gemini16
Aug 25, 2025 1:04 am
I just had the BB surgery a month ago. The hospital gave me the waffle. Not a great choice. When in the passenger seat of a car, I used a fluffy, larger, round pillow. I think I bought it from Walmart. You'll need a soft and fluffy, fall-into-me kind of pillow.
For driving, once able, I used a microfiber chair cushion, also from Walmart.
Terrel
Aug 25, 2025 1:29 pm
For me, a blow-up waffle cushion is just about perfect. I keep one on my chair at the dining table, one on my computer chair, and one in my car. When I go out, I just grab whichever one is closest, deflate it, and stuff it in my bag. When I use it at the other end, I just blow it up to the amount of cushion I need.
anyark
Aug 25, 2025 11:29 pm
I don't think you'll have a problem popping the cushion; you only inflate it partially. Good luck to you.