My daughter has been on my case for the last 6 years about dating. More so since I've had my ostomy surgery. I have Familial Adenomatous Polyposis (FAP), so I had everything below the small intestine removed: colon, anus, rectum (wince). I already had horrible self-esteem, so you can imagine what my self-esteem was like after my surgery.
But, God bless my lovely daughter. I was so angry with her at first, but she went through my closets at 5 months after the surgery and had me start trying on things to see what would and would not work, and then dragged me out to the mall for a wardrobe change. Well, I have this new wardrobe and I don't go anywhere, so somehow, this crazy girl has set me up with a lunch date today. Evidently, she knows a chef who's my age and is divorced, and they are friends, so we're having a friendly lunch and she's coming along to make sure that I don't bolt for the door.
Oh Lord, I'm a nervous wreck. Wish me luck everyone, I hope I don't dribble soup down my chin, or my ostomy doesn't decide to start making gurgling noises to make her presence known. And heaven help me if the gas starts and my bag swells to the size of a baseball while we're nibbling salad. LOL.

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Hello! Hope your all, having a great start of your day! I have to say this place has been helpful in many ways and the people here, seem very real and mostly helpful in anyway! I usually don't bother anyone really and try to figure out different things on my own, but that is with common sense, but with experience definitely helps and I read stories and I have my own stories and it's been so much and it's nice to have friends here, who understand same kind of situation 😊
I think it's great when people help each other and who is helpful in different ways! I appreciate anything advice etc... Thank you all and very happy this site is here ! I hope you have a good day/night! I'm trying to figure out how to take care of me more then I used to as I think of others more then myself! I'm hoping your all having a great summer! Let's all help more and give a high 5 and all help and get together! 😊☮️❤️😊🌈☀️🌧
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