I had a sigmoid colostomy 2 weeks ago and am having constant problems with appearance and smell.
I have a small diaphragm so they were forced to place the stoma right next to the belly button. To offset the increased risk of hernia in this location they brought it out a full 1.5". Of course, sex is impossible because the stoma would be in the way and I can't use my abs. But the main problem from location is that whenever I go out there's a giant point in my shirt, and everyone stares at me. A thin build makes it especially noticeable.
Another problem is the smell. There's always a bad smell, even with a tightly fitting wafer and clean bag. I think it's due to rectal mucus. The original problem was that the sacral nerves didn't stimulate the rectal muscles to tighten between BMs, so there was always a bad smell. Now I have the same problem to a lesser degree because the rectum doesn't close tightly enough on the mucus. I tried a glycerin suppository today, which did cause mucus to come out. However, I've been feeling rectal pressure all afternoon and when I went out people were touching their noses around me a lot more than usual. So it looks like I'm going to smell and have to hide from people for the rest of my life. Charcoal underwear is an option for social events that are absolutely mandatory, but it looks like day-to-day life will have to be solitary.
Has anyone else had these problems? Are there any solutions? Thanks for your time.
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