With all the nudes being posted everywhere online, I've wondered about my Ostomate friends here...
1- Have you ever sent someone a nude selfie, or almost-nude selfie?
2- Who was the last person that saw you naked?
3- If you've sent a nude or semi-nude selfie, did you hide the bag?
I was the last person that saw me naked. I have sent a partial nude pic... no faces... and no to the total nude...
Damn dude, I thought I was forward.
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Lol! Thanks for responding, Moonshine! I honestly didn't think anyone would... I'll admit the questions were pretty forward, but I am just nosy...
My responses:
My wife was the last in-person to see me naked. I have sent a partial nude and a total nude, but did hide the bag...
Hi Guys,
I was married for nearly 25 years, from age 20 on. My ex was my "first," but he also had an ostomy, so that was never an issue. But I developed a lot of confidence when I was a "teen" ostomate, and we had a young adult group. There were some "older" guys in the group, who were sexually active, and said there were times their partner didn't even know there was an ostomy appliance. Considering what the supplies were like back then (1960s), I can't imagine hiding anything.
But in the last 20 years, since my divorce, I've had several ongoing (serial monogamy) relationships, and those guys had no problem with being nude, bag and all. It took me a while to get that it didn't matter to them at all. I have more anxiety about my weight and my scars, and my stretched-out skin, than I do with my ostomy.
And yes... I've sent "nudies" with the bag discreetly covered... hoping that I'd never find myself on the internet. Sigh... at my age, who is really going to care?
The guy I'm currently seeing assesses my comfort level (on being nude with him) every so often. He is so pleased that I'm relaxed and at ease with him... we even shower together. I think we have to accept ourselves and our changed bodies first, but then I personally believe that it's up to each partner to make the other feel comfortable... I never really think of men being self-conscious about their bodies, but the ostomy is really a test for each person to master.
Marsha
Marsha... loved your June 19th letter. Well done, you!!!! I have been a nudist for some 30 years and, since my operation and colostomy bag 3 years ago, have stayed away from the nude beaches and nude social activity because I feel so uncomfortable. I am hoping to overcome this, but I'm not sure. So, I'm still a home or closet nudist, which is still fun and very relaxing. Nice to hear from some others in this situation.
Stay well... Robb.
