I've recently taken up a casual sexual relationship with a friend whom I hadn't seen for 15 years. He hasn't said so, but from piecing together a few clues I think he has had a colostomy or ileostomy. He has crohn's and when we went to bed he kept his shirt on, trying to cover something around his waist. I thought it was a like an athletic support for his stomach or back at the time, but there was a third clue in something obscure he said.
It doesn't bother me, but I'd appreciate any tips to avoid making him feel uncomfortable - emotionally or physically. Like, should I avoid touching his stomach?
I'm sure you will want to respond with "Talk to him about it" but since he is trying to hide it and I could even be wrong in my assumption, I don't want to be - or think I should be - the one to bring it up.