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Dealing with Panty Hose and my Ostomy

Posted by Bubbles2010, on Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:10 am

Hello there fellow pantyhose wearers! I need some advice. In the winter months, I have no option but to wear tights or hosiery under dresses and it’s causing me a lot of pain. I haven’t had anything burst because I empty it a lot more frequently, but I definitely wear dresses for special occasions only due to the discomfort. Thigh Highs aren’t really an option because my legs aren’t toned and they fall down. Does anyone have experience with this problem as well? I wear a size up and I used to be able to find lower rise hose with a wide band, but it seems I either have hose that fall down my legs or crotch, or wear some sort of control top. Anything very tight around my surgical sites, even after years, still hurts. Suggestions, solutions, or comizeration are all welcomed!


themks, Katie

Reply by Angelicamarie, on Sun Dec 23, 2018 8:04 am

Hello bubbles2010.. I do wear pantyhose from time to time. I also wear high rise jockey panties, which help with wearing pantyhose. I say that because I put the panties on after the pantyhose. I used to wear spanx, but after my surgery it was to tight on my stoma. But the high waisted panties tend to hold you in and help with wearing pantie hose. Now that works for me, it might work for you too. Have you tried stockings with a garter belt? I do hope you find a solution. Hope this helped!


Reply by Bubbles2010, on Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:28 pm

Thank you! My ostomy is below my belly button after much begging from my surgeon. I have amazing panties I exclusively wear from Soma. They are great. I wear the Vanishing Tummy Retro Brief for dresses and skirts since it’s higher and the Vanishing Tummy Modern Brief and the rest of the time. They really help add a tiny bit of support to prevent the dreaded pouch crotch droup. They are expensive, but I buy them on clearance and hand wash them. They also are seamless with 5+ silicon strips to hold them in place. 

I need to find the pantyhose that I used to have that came to my belly button with a comfort band. 

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Reply by Bubbles2010, on Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:29 pm

I just wish pant hose in general weren’t uncomfortable. 😩

Reply by Bill, on Mon Dec 24, 2018 2:29 am

Hello Bubbles. I don't think we call it pantyhose in the UK. The term here is usually 'tights' and this label  more or less sums up the problem. Many years ago when I was fit enough to climb mountains, we used to wear tights as a lightweight undergarment to keep us warm. If I recall correctly, we did as Angelicamarie suggested and wore pants over the top, which kept them from slipping down.  In those days, I also worked for a firm which manufactured nylons - so we were able to make odd small batches of tights to suit our needs. (usually higher than 30 denier)  I just wondered, if you have a design in mind for ostomates, whether one of the manfacturers might be willing to try a batch to market specifically for people with stomas. You never know, they are always looking for new markets. Also, you might like to look on websites such as the US equivalent of 'UK tights', which appear to have a whole range of pantyhose. (Far more variety than the basic stuff we used to make)

I hope you eventually find something to suit your needs.

Besr wishes


Reply by freedancer, on Fri Dec 28, 2018 1:24 am

Can you use maternity pantyhose?? I wanted to wear jeans but where my ileostomy is placed, it is where the band would go. One of the ladies on here told me to try maternity jeans.  I tried them and they work perfect! The stretchy part cradles the bag just great!

Reply by Bubbles2010, on Wed Jan 02, 2019 1:43 am

That’s my next stop. I also only have one pair of jeans cause as a 31 year old, I really want to be somewhat stylish. 😂

Maternity jeans are expensive, but I’m going to go to one of the nice stores that is usually fairly empty so I can explain my situation and get personalized service. 

Where did you get your jeans and can you describe them? I am of normal weight, but I have some tummy flab after 7 abdominal surgeries and I often get bloating and always unbutton my jeans in the car. Sometimes I even use the hair band trick!

Reply by freedancer, on Wed Jan 02, 2019 4:06 am

I got my jeans at the Goodwill thrift shop. Like anything pregnancy, the clothing is only slightly worn and in good shape.  They were only 5 dollars and after washing, looked great!

Reply by Newbie Dana, on Mon Jan 07, 2019 6:23 pm

As a woman, I find gathered skirts with an elastic band to be most comfortable, and I wear sandles in the summer (no hose) and longer skirts with socks in the winter (also no hose). At age 62, I basically made a dicision that my comfort was more important to me than uncomfortable fashion. I also have a large peristomal hernia, which is doubly hard to wear hose with.

I wonder, though, if you might find a garter belt and regular hose rather than panty hose to be your answer. There are several garter belts which are narrower and won't extend down to the point where it would be uncomfortable against your stoma. Look in some of the "intimate shops" like Cirilla's; they should have what you need.

I used to wear thigh-high stockings with a very wide comfort band at the top, but found them very difficult to find some time ago.

Reply by bigal1579, on Mon Jan 07, 2019 6:38 pm

I'm a guy, so take my comments with a grain of salt.  However, I am a marketing researcher and my clients have included both Playtex and Hanes hosiery.  Additionally, the challenge of tight underwear over one's stoma is not gender specific.

First, you should check out the offerings at  They specialize in solutions that make people not give up on fashion.

Second, I have developed my own work arounds where I try to keep the bag outside of my underwear (being covered by my underwear always seem to smoosh things up too much).  Current fashion trends with the shirt untucked really help, and I also do a version where I wear briefs below the stoma line and then baggy shorts or boxers, with the elastic above the stoma line.  People often associate control top with pantyhose.  However, if you give up on that idea and instead pull them up, and then roll the elastic down to just below the stoma line, you might be able to get the panty hose to stay up while not interfering with surgical site areas.  If you wear a dress, or a skirt with the waist above the stoma, the bag can hang free underneath and not be seen.  That's what I do virtually all the time with my untucked shirt.  The pouch is covered by my shirt, and it never shows.  Once in awhile I have to think about it, like putting luggage in the overhead bin, but it's not a big deal.  If you are concerned about the pouch not being secure if it is outside of your underwear, there are lots of great wraps available, both at ostomysecrets and other places.



Reply by ShellB5, on Tue Jan 08, 2019 3:11 am

Hi Bubbles2010.....I always wear stockings....I used to have to dress for work and always wore form fitting clothes. I wanted to try "smooth out" everything. Now I still wear them and pull them up and find where my stoma is and cut a hole in the stockings and pull my bag thru. I almost always wear a tank top to hold the bag in place (more to make me feel secure so bag doesnt flop around). Hope this helps.

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