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Wed Jan 16, 2019 7:56 am
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hi all first post so please be kind.

prior to surgery in sept 18 i was previously a bit of a closet naturist. since surgery which has knocked my body confidence although still wanting to explore this lifestyle my concern is how others would judge me with my bag obviously on show when at the beach or at a resort etc. Has anyone had any experiences in this environment good or bad ?

Wed Jan 16, 2019 9:20 am

I'd say if you have the confidence to be a "naturist" in the first place, you won't have any trouble wearing a bag on the beach.  I saw a posting with a picture by a woman from CA in a bikini on the beach wearing an ostomy bag.  Didn't bother her one bit...  Others will judge you the same as they judge the rest of us who have to wear a bag.  Some, I suppose, it will bother...others it won't.  At least you'll know right away which ones it bothers and which ones it doesn't.  You won't have to worry about WHEN to tell someone.   lol  Go for it!

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Wed Jan 16, 2019 10:29 am

Hi Monkey,

Love your Monkey pic! I too have seen several, usually young women that wear a bikini with their pouch exposed! I am far from someone that would do that. Wearing a bikini without a pouch has not even been in my wardrobe for a few years! Lol I imagine it would look like a man purse or something at first glance! Not a bad thing either if you are insecure at first! Buy a pouch cover! Built in man purse! I say do what makes you comfortable! If be a naturalist is what you do, why change! I am sure you have seen uglier things than a pouch and did not judge!



Wed Jan 16, 2019 10:53 am

One life live it!!! Get out there and live it. You will be surrpised no one will be the slighest bit bothered or make any nasty comments.  Naturism isn't for me but as I've read stories and seen bits and pieces about it on TV there the most unjuging people around and never judge anyone on there apperance 

Wed Jan 16, 2019 11:44 am

thanks for the feedback guys defo giving me food for thought. since my op i have had a more you only live once attitude and feel like if i want do something i should just do it. 

Thu Jan 17, 2019 1:11 am

I'm with all the supportive comments. My brother used to run a dress optional resort in NZ and nobody worried about what other people were wearing or not. A pouch would not have made any difference to their non-judgemental attitudes. 

Best wishes


Tue Jan 22, 2019 7:51 pm

Hi, order a stealth belt. They are very nice, it hides the ostomy and secures it in a way you will feel more confident. Hope this helps.


Tue Jan 22, 2019 7:52 pm

thanks dan have been looking at them for work never thought about using one at the beach good call thanks for the advice

Tue Jan 22, 2019 8:09 pm

Your welcome, I order one just before Christmas. They are really helpful. I called them to ask a few questions. I received it about a week later. Wow. I can't wait to try it out in the summer. I might even  feel normal again on the beach, lol.

Tue Jan 22, 2019 8:11 pm

that is my hope to feel as normal as possible by the summer. the naturist community are usually really good with this sort of thing but still makes me a little nervous 

Wed Jan 23, 2019 12:46 pm

Yes you are so right Vanessa, Women can wear lingerie and look fantastic during intimate times. Men dont really have anything so the Stealth belt really is a great garmet to wear for those reasons also.

Tue Feb 26, 2019 11:46 am

hi all

quick update not that i imagine anyone interested lol. Attended first naturist swim post op over the weekend. Although nervous as to how my pouch would be recieved as expected the naturist community were very friendly if a little curious about it.

After 10 minutes of being there and answering a few questions i forgot i even had my pouch and enjoyed my swim.

Glad it has gone well and has increased my confidence further.

Tue Feb 26, 2019 12:29 pm

Great to hear, Cheeky!  Glad you enjoyed your swiim and didn't let the pouch bother you.  Not surprising that a few people were curious.  I would have been too..before I got one myself.  lol

Tue Feb 26, 2019 5:13 pm

i think its been a common theme since i had it no real negative comment just ppl interested how it works and generally asking things that i had no clue about myself until i had it which is understandable.

onwards and upwards hopefully more possitive experiences in the future 

Mon Mar 04, 2019 4:33 pm

That is awesome news Monkey! Glad it all went so well!  You should always feel comfortable in your choices and other people sometimes make it or break it! 


Mon Mar 04, 2019 5:18 pm

Thanks pup what i have learnt from this whole experience is that if you think to much what others may think of you then youwill never do anything. I am not the most out going and self confident guy but now after my recent scare I think that life is to short not to do things you enjoy and try new things.

im currently  looking forward to the future now im feeling healthy again and that is something i couldnt say 6 months ago in a hospital bed 

Mon Mar 04, 2019 9:39 pm

Hey Monkey! 

You have something no one else has in the natural group so, I would guess you would be popular so not only should you not care but embrace it! Next time, draw a happy face on your pouch! Lol

Mon Mar 04, 2019 11:14 pm

hi puppy

you be glad to know i will be rocking a batman pouch cover next time i go lol.

The pouch is certainly a conversation starter with most just wondering what it was and if i was now ok. met some good ppl and at the end of the swim had a big group photo which i would love to share but wont for obvious reasons.

needless to say my pouch has become my calling card lol

Tue Mar 05, 2019 3:07 am

Batman pouch?  Well, there you go!  Now you're getting into the spirit!  Great idea!

Tue Mar 05, 2019 3:42 am

saw it couldnt resist it lol

Tue Mar 05, 2019 8:02 am

You could change them according to your mood too...Superman?  Godzilla?  Pumpkins?  Easter Bunny? St. Nick for the Christmas?  lol

Tue Mar 05, 2019 12:11 pm

mood pouch i like it lol

Tue Mar 05, 2019 1:13 pm

I like it too! I think I will draw a face on mine for my last day of Radiation! Maybe a face with a tongue sticking out! 


Tue Mar 05, 2019 3:58 pm

Pup..That one seems very appropriate!

Sun Jul 07, 2019 12:41 am

Interesting! I do nude fitness, but not in public. I don't have a bag to expose anymore but it's good to read about others in the same category of naturalism. 

Mon Nov 18, 2019 2:53 pm

Looks like an old post, but I'll weigh in anyway. I also missed being just me on the beach, in the water and in the sun. 
ive gotten very regular with irrigation. Enough so that I usually feel confident enough to just wear a large Nexcare bandage over my stoma. That opened up many possibilities for me. I still wear a thin closed pouch most of the time.

It's one of my ostomy-bag-of-tricks. 

I hope it helps. 

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