Hi Art. I can't advise or direct you but I suggest you ask all the questions you can. Lots of folks here are experts because they went through the same thing you're going through. Additionally, your surgeon, ostomy nurse, PC physician and anyone else involved should be consulted.
I will, however, offer an opinion. From the time I was diagnosed with two cancers I was encouraged to do everything possible to avoid an ostomy. I was led to believe a stoma was the absolute worst thing to happen to a human. My wonderful surgeons removed the tumors and reconnected everything and, with chemo and radiation I became cancer free. Then I spent a couple years in the bathroom in tremendous pain swallowing Tramadols or some kind of pain killers that made it difficult to know what day it was and/or who I was. About seven years ago I got an end colostomy. I do almost everything now that I did before my diagnosis. What I can't do now is because I'm too freaken old and has almost nothing to do with the ostomy. Please understand these are only my opinions but I'm convinced my colostomy was far from the worst thing that could have happened to me.
I wish you the very best and, please, do all the research you can.
Respectfully,
Mike