This topic is about coping with the challenges that come after a radical cystectomy, particularly dealing with ostomy leaks, changes in body image, and the emotional impact of such a significant life change. Here are some insights and advice shared by others who have been through similar experiences:

- **Appliance and Leak Management**
- Consider sticking with or adjusting convex systems if you have a sunken stoma, as they can help reduce leakage by pushing the stoma out.
- Try combining different products. For example, some people have success with a routine that includes liquid skin adhesive, an Eakin Seal, and a convex wafer to achieve a leak-free experience.
- As your body changes, ensure your appliance fits correctly. You might need to try different convex baseplates and adjust belt tensions until your weight stabilizes.

- **Give Yourself Time**
- Remember that learning to manage ostomy care is a process. Leaks and frustration are common, especially in the first year, but things do get better with time.

- **Emotional Coping Strategies**
- It's okay to vent your feelings here; everyone understands and supports you.
- Try to keep a sense of humor. Laughing at mishaps, like dreaming about an "exploding bag," can help ease anger.
- Focus on small improvements and take recovery one day at a time.

- **Dealing with Relationship Loss and Self-Worth**
- You're not alone in experiencing relationship changes after surgery. Remember, someone leaving does not define your worth.
- Your children can be a strong source of motivation. Many single parents find strength in their kids to push through treatment.
- There is hope for new, supportive relationships in the future. Some members have found new partners who understand and support them.

- **Stress Management**
- Stress can worsen conditions like Crohn’s disease and slow down healing. Look for ways to reduce stress, such as joining support forums, finding humor in daily life, or seeking counseling.

- **Community Support**
- This forum is a place where you can find virtual hugs, advice, and empathy at any time. Reach out whenever you need support.