This topic revolves around a new ostomate who is feeling uneasy about a request from an acquaintance. This person, who recently had an ileostomy and is planning a reversal soon, was asked by a non-ostomy friend to send a photo of her stoma before the reconnection surgery. She finds this request strange and is seeking opinions on whether such a request is normal.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. If you feel uncomfortable with the request, it's perfectly okay to say no. Your body is private, and you are not obligated to share non-medical images with anyone.

2. For those curious about what a stoma looks like, there are plenty of resources and photos available online. It's not necessary for someone to ask you personally for a picture.

3. If someone repeatedly asks for something like this without a clear reason, it might be a sign of inappropriate intentions. It's wise to be cautious and consider disengaging from the conversation.

4. Think of your stoma area as you would any other intimate part of your body. Only medical professionals should see it unless you choose to share it with someone else.

5. Don't feel pressured by past support or friendship to comply with such requests. It's important to set boundaries, and if needed, you can stop responding or block the person.

6. Some ostomates may choose to show their appliance to close friends, but this is entirely voluntary and should never be expected or requested.

7. Before responding, try to understand who is asking, why they are asking, and if there is any legitimate reason for the request. If there isn't, it's okay to decline.