This topic is about the delicate decision of when to tell a new partner that you have a colostomy. It's a personal choice that can feel daunting, but many people have shared their experiences and advice to help navigate this situation.

- Many people suggest disclosing early, even on or before the first date. This approach:
- Shows that you’re not keeping a “dirty secret.”
- Helps quickly identify those who can’t handle it, saving you time and emotional energy.
- Allows those who stay to show they genuinely care.

- An ostomy can act as a “jerk detector.” If someone reacts poorly, they might not be the right person for you anyway.

- A practical tip is to provide objective information, like a website link or printed materials, after you disclose. This can help reduce any fear based on ignorance.

- Trust your instincts and choose the moment that feels right for you. There’s no one-size-fits-all timeline.

- Often, accepting the ostomy yourself is more challenging than having a partner accept it. Being confident about your situation and having strategies to manage any leaks, noises, or unexpected moments can enhance intimacy.

- Being open about your ostomy with friends, coworkers, or even on online profiles can eliminate the need for a special revelation. Anyone who asks you out will already be aware.

- Negative reactions or being ghosted can happen, but these experiences highlight the importance of being honest early on.

- Some people use humor to cope, joking about throwing a full bag at someone. The underlying message is that if someone sticks around after learning about your ostomy, they’re likely a keeper.