When meeting a new partner, when do you inform them about your colostomy, or do you not?

I would like to see people's experiences.

Yeah tell them if they dont like it then you no they wouldnt stand by you in any circumstances move on to the next fuck them thats how i see it Either like it or lump it

I told my partner after our first date, we were in contact via e-mail, so I told him what I had, then sent him a link to a website explaining everything. He read it all, then got back to me and told me it didn't bother him in the slightest. I have had other people run a mile when I told them - one memorable guy told me I was a disgusting freak and he wanted nothing more to do with me (his loss). I think it's best to tell people early on because it shows that it is not a dirty secret you want to hide. If doing it in person, I also advise having some basic literature on the subject as it is often the fear that makes people scared. Good luck.

I've only had the opportunity to tell three potential relationships. One ended badly (for other reasons...she was fine with the bag); one is accepting of it, but we are just friends (sweet girl and very pretty...maybe someday, if I'm lucky); the last was the worst. Shortly after my surgery, I reconnected with an ex...went to a couple of movies, dinner, etc...I told her about it, and she said that if someone really cares about you, it won't make a difference to them. And she proceeded to never contact me again.

If/When it explodes on them. Kidding... I say tell them whenever you feel it's the right time. It's probably different for every relationship. But, I see my ostomy as a jerk detector. If somebody can't handle it, why would you want to be with them anyway? If they walk away because of it, be grateful because it's probably saving you months of an agonizing relationship.

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Throw a full ostomy bag at their face... If they still wanna date you after that.... Well I'd say we have found ourselves a keeper!!! The winner to whom can handle the most shit! Literally...

Ha! I think that a lot of people are actually accepting of the bag... part of the problem comes from accepting it yourself. I know that mine saved my life (legit, I'd have died a fairly gruesome death 4 years ago without it), but when it comes to being intimate with someone? And KNOWING that it's a bag of crap taped to your side? Makes me skittish at the very least... and I'm used to it! It's not that I think they're a bad thing, far from it... but I tend to look for the worst-case scenario - and with a bag, it's the rupture/mess making that I worry about a lot.

I agree with Captain T on this one. My man is not bothered in the slightest, and we had only been together 3 months when I got it. 3 years later, it's me with the issue, not him!! Mind you, it's us that has to deal with the mess, the noises, and the explaining when it makes a mess. Pretty fed up with it at the moment. I work for a trendy cosmetics company in a well-known department store. Yesterday, I bent down to pick up a product for a customer, and the bloody thing burst all over me!!! I was and still am totally mortified and do not want to go to work tomorrow :-(

I don't hide the fact that I have a bag (I have been called worse); everyone knows. Ergo, I don't have to worry about telling anyone. Come to think of it, should I go out on a date, she already knows. If she doesn't like it, she won't accept my invitation. Come to think about that, it's a great way to avoid spending money and energy on a wasted date. Everyone will be happy.

That's the great question, dude... 6 years and I still haven't been able to figure it out.

As far as dating, upon their learning of your ostomy, if they suddenly become shallow, show them the door, and tell them their name is on the knob. Some, who are a little dense in the brain, think they are better than the rest of us. Once karma and irony slap them upside the head, they are dazed and confused.