This topic is about dealing with feelings of loss in a marriage after one partner receives an ostomy. It explores the emotional journey of adjusting to changes in self-esteem, self-respect, and physical intimacy. Despite these challenges, there is hope and recognition that many aspects of life and the relationship remain strong.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. Reflect on how loss can open up opportunities to discover new strengths or aspects of your relationship. Focus on what can now be "found."

2. Understand that the ostomy affects both partners. Keep communication open and honest so that both can share their feelings and uncertainties.

3. Remember that an ostomy does not define who you are. Maintaining self-esteem is important for the health of the relationship.

4. Nurture non-sexual intimacy, such as hand-holding, companionship, and mutual support, to keep your bond strong during physical adjustments.

5. Try not to focus only on what seems lost. Appreciating what remains or becomes "more wonderful" can help strengthen your partnership.