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Jan 31, 2025

Intimacy Issues with an Ileostomy Bag During Sex

Topic Explanation
The forum discussion revolves around the challenges of maintaining intimacy while having an ileostomy bag during sex. The original poster is seeking advice on how to manage or conceal the bag to avoid it being a distraction or visible during intimate moments.

Advice and Insights

1. Involve Your Partner:
- Engage your partner in the process and research together to find solutions that work for both of you.

2. Clothing and Accessories:
- Use crotchless knickers to keep the bag out of the way.
- Consider wearing a spandex camisole or a female tube top over the belly to hide the bag.
- Try a bustier or long lingerie to cover the bag.
- Bellabands from Target can prevent the bag from hanging down.

3. Bag Covers and Belts:
- Use a bag cover, which can be found on Amazon in various colors and designs.
- The Stealth Belt Ostomy Bag Cover is recommended for keeping the bag secure and out of sight.
- Coloplast makes a wide velcro-fastening belt that can help hide the bag.

4. Positioning:
- Experiment with different sexual positions to find what works best for keeping the bag out of the way.
- The "doggy" position is suggested as it keeps the bag out of sight.

5. Bag Management:
- Ensure the bag is empty before engaging in sex to minimize distractions.
- Consider using ostomy caps or covers for a more discreet option during intimate moments.

6. Mindset and Communication:
- Focus on the "we" rather than "I" to foster a supportive environment with your partner.
- Address personal insecurities and work towards feeling comfortable with your body.

7. Practical Tips:
- Avoid tight tops as they can cause pancaking and potential leaks.
- Use earplugs or a sleep mask if the sight or sound of the bag is bothersome.

8. Personal Experiences:
- Many have found that their partners are more accepting of the bag than they initially expected.
- Some have shared that their partners do not notice the bag during intimacy, emphasizing the importance of personal comfort and confidence.
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