This topic is about a lesbian woman with a permanent ileostomy who is reaching out to find other lesbian ostomates. She is looking to connect with others who share similar experiences.

Here are some insights and advice shared by the community:

- The originator has not faced significant issues with dating since getting her ostomy bag and considers it a non-issue. She is curious to know if there are other lesbians with ostomies and has even thought about starting a scholarship fund or similar project.
- She has met a woman she hopes to marry, and her partner views the ostomy appliance as a non-issue.

Advice and insights from the community include:

1. Many lesbian, queer, bi, and pan ostomates responded, confirming their presence and sharing their experiences, which vary in age, type of surgery, and when they had their surgery.

2. Dating and Relationships:
- Most partners are accepting, and any difficulties often stem from the ostomate's own self-consciousness.
- Treat the ostomy bag as a small part of who you are; if you don't make it a big deal, others usually won't either.
- Don't settle; look for someone who values you as a whole person.
- There are many positive stories of long-term happy marriages and new relationships developing smoothly after surgery.

3. Self-confidence and Mental Health:
- Focus on body acceptance; every step you take is valuable.
- Women partners often bring extra empathy and understanding.
- Don't let hurtful reactions from an ex stop you from dating again; many women will be supportive and affirming.
- Sexual orientation can be fluid, and everyone on the continuum is welcome.

4. Community and Networking:
- Some suggest forming a dedicated closed Facebook group for lesbian ostomates, which would be private but searchable.
- Instructions for creating such a group include setting it up on Facebook and inviting or approving members.
- Other ways to connect include upgrading forum accounts for private messaging, using live chat, or joining additional ostomy boards like UOAA.org and C3Life.com.

5. Practical Concerns:
- A long-term ileostomate is seeking recommendations for alternative pouches due to a new skin-tape allergy.
- Members recovering from other surgeries have found online friendships and Facebook groups helpful during tough times.

6. Encouragement:
- Continue living fully; activities like sports, travel, caregiving, and everyday life are possible and rewarding with an ostomy.
- Celebrate small victories and appreciate the supportive, kind atmosphere within the ostomy community.