This topic is about the experience of going on a first date after having ostomy surgery. The person sharing their story has Familial Adenomatous Polyposis (FAP) and had their colon, rectum, and anus removed. They have been dealing with low self-esteem since the surgery. Encouraged by their daughter, they got a new wardrobe and went on a casual lunch date with a divorced chef of the same age, with the daughter there for support. The main concerns were about the pouch being visible or making noises, and the general awkwardness of dating with an ostomy.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. Relax and enjoy the moment. Try not to worry too much about potential accidents.
2. If the pouch makes a noise, use light humor to ease the situation, like saying “oops, that was me” or “my stomach is thanking me for feeding it,” and keep the conversation going.
3. Remember, your ostomy does not define your worth. Let your personality shine and don’t let fear keep you from connecting with others.
4. It’s important to adjust and choose to live fully rather than staying lonely.
5. Consider products or garments that can boost your confidence and provide discretion:
- OstomySecrets.com wraps are pretty and easy to use.
- Stealth Belt is sportier, though some find it a bit tricky to set up.
6. For inspiration, consider the story of an 87-year-old who had a total colectomy at 72, remarried at 76, and is thriving. It’s a reminder that “there’s someone for everyone.”
7. Give yourself a courage boost: put on your “big-girl panties,” get back out there, and remember you only have one chance to make the most of life.