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May 01, 2012

First Date in 6 Years After Major Surgery - Wish Me Luck!

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The topic discusses a person's first date in six years following major surgery, specifically an ostomy surgery due to Familial Adenomatous Polyposis (FAP). This condition required the removal of all parts below the small intestine, including the colon, anus, and rectum. The individual expresses concerns about self-esteem and the physical implications of the ostomy during social interactions, such as a date. The person credits their daughter for encouraging them to start dating again by helping them with a wardrobe change and setting up a lunch date with a chef who is a friend of the daughter.

Advice and Helpful Insights from Replies
1. Handling Ostomy Noises and Situations:
- Embrace any noises or mishaps with humor and continue the conversation without letting it disrupt the flow of the date. This approach helps in normalizing the situation and reducing any potential embarrassment.

2. Self-Confidence and Acceptance:
- Remember that having an ostomy does not diminish personal worth or desirability. Let your personality shine through and focus on enjoying the interaction rather than the ostomy itself.

3. Encouragement and Positive Outlook:
- It's important to keep trying and not give up on dating or social interactions despite the challenges posed by the ostomy. There is someone for everyone, and personal happiness and companionship are achievable at any age and despite health issues.

4. Practical Advice for Future Dates:
- Consider using products from ostomysecrets.com or a Stealth Belt to manage the ostomy discreetly, especially when planning to wear outfits like jeans. These products can provide confidence and comfort during social outings.

5. Humor and Light-heartedness:
- Using humor to address any ostomy-related noises or situations during social interactions can help in making the situation less awkward and more comfortable for everyone involved.

6. Success and Encouragement from Personal Experience:
- Sharing personal success stories about dating and relationships after ostomy surgery can provide encouragement and hope to others in similar situations. It highlights that meaningful relationships and social life are possible post-surgery.
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